Tuesday, July 23, 2013

Everyone needs a shoulder!

Hey Everybody,

I'm hoping all is well with you! So far, so good with me.
This post is just some encouragement that people have sent to me, that I wanted to send to you!
Times are hard, things get rough, but through perseverance, persistence and patience. We will make it through!
Love you all,

Tammy J

Poem from Bradie Frink:

Good things come to those wait
Hopefully soon and not too late
You've prepared yourself for what may come
When the game is over you will have won

Never more than you can bare
God our king will be right there
To wipe away your every tear
And soothe your heart from any fear

I believe in you and all you do
If anyone can succeed it will be you
A little test to check your faith
And exercise God's awesome grace

He'll keep you in perfect peace
Working it out when you expect it the least 
His hand is covering your heart and life
Protecting you from hurt and strife

So lift your your head and do your thing
Enjoy the miracle that God will bring
Increasing everything you thought you were losing
Giving you choices, a job of your choosing

From what I've seen I know you're ok
The time is now, you'll find your way
You'll figure it out, job, house and all
And if you need to talk, GIVE ME A CALL



Words of encouragement from KF:
It's only a chapter, not the story!



Song lyrics from PY:

There's nothing you can't do,
Now you're in New York,
These streets will make you feel brand new,
Big lights will inspire you,
Let's hear it for New York, New York, New York



Words of encouragement from CH:

Don't let the temporary irritations, personality conflicts, challenges and foolishness distract you, my sister.  Keep your eyes on the prize!  Do not be timid to SHINE because God made you to shine for Him.  People may get intimidated but you have a higher calling and you must answer to Him.  You will do well in Jesus' name!



Words of wisdom from DJ:

You are a G! Like a real G.
Moving to another city with no job. That's some G stuff!




Words of encouragement from SS:

I know God has someone for everyone. God has a plan for your life and don't forget it. Read this story. You never know what happens when you blog.



Words of encouragement from RJ:

Go Tameka, Go!
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Words of encouragement from me:

This too shall past and joy cometh in the morning. 


Send some words of encouragement that people have sent you:
tammyj at tammyj .net






Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Just a chapter, not the story!

Hello All,

You’ll be happy to know that I’ve started my podcast. It’s called the Tammy J: It Happens show and it is on iTunes, Spreaker and YouTube. I’m very excited about this and I really hope you guys will listen, subscribe and leave reviews. :-)
iTunes people, click here and all the rest of you, click here.

Well, on to more news. Current status, I do not have a job, meaning I do not have my own apartment, meaning I’m still where I was last week. However, I received some good advice, which I’m going to take. “Stop acting like a visitor and you might fall in love with the place”. Thanks Fed! I think I will. As a result of taking this advice, I went grocery shopping. Do not ask what I have been doing the past month. Don’t. Just leave it alone. I took some more advice from a friend (thanks RJ) and bought some bread, lunch meat, snacks, cereal and milk. I just ate a sandwich and it was pretty good! As I went out to make my sandwich, my roommate offered me some Moroccan tea and bread that he made. I said yes. Well, look at that – my friends will be proud of me. :-)

Not only did I go grocery shopping, I went downstairs to the basement level of this apartment building to wash my clothes. Again, don’t ask what I’ve been doing before this. No, I haven’t been going to Maryland to wash clothes. SMH. I got all excited about facing the dungeon (I mean the basement). I scoped out the dungeon first. I saw that the machines were fairly new, I went to the bank and asked for $20 in quarters and headed to the dungeon. I get there and 1) I don’t have any detergent and 2) the machines do not take quarters, they take a card that you need cash to get. I felt awfully stupid. You should have seen me leaving the bank, like I was doing something. All excited about being proactive, well, apparently not that observant. SMH. Now that I’ve bought the detergent, I haven’t been able to get the cash to buy the card. I think I’ll go back to the bank and ask them for $20 for my two rolls of quarters. SMH

My adventures on the train, included the following:
  •          One guy was playing a guitar (Christian music) and a couple of drunk ladies were dancing in their drunken way.  It was quite interesting to watch, especially since they were worship songs. LOL He just kept playing.
  •         As they were dancing, these two girls were walking arm-in-arm down the platform and one of the girls just fell and brought them both down. I was like, OMG. My legs started to move towards them, because the one girl wasn’t getting back up. Before I could get there, many other people were already there and one guy scoped up the girl, grabbed his stuff and started taking her towards the nearest police officer. I thought that was very unlike New York, but was very glad to see that act of kindness.
  •         After they passed me to get to the police, all I see is these two legs walking, but the guy was sitting in a wheelchair. So, his legs were doing all the movement and he was walking or scooting across the platform.  I did a double take and he looked at me like, “yeah”. I just looked back at him like, “do what you do, sir”. SMH
  •         I get on the train and I see this woman with a purple shirt, purple lipstick and purple glazed eyebrows. I had to look a few more times and thought – I’ve seen it all now. These New Yorkers are taking matching to another level.

On Friday, I left work really late, probably around 8:00 pm, because I had to do a video conference for the class that I teach online and I wouldn’t have made it back to my place in time. Therefore, I stayed, but made sure the maintenance crew knew I was there. As I left the building, I tried to go out of my usual exit and there was this huge sign that said “HALT”. Just kidding, it said, STOP. Do not exit this way, between the hours of 8am and 11pm or the NYPD will take action against you. With my luck, I figured if I ignored that sign, the siren would go off, lights would come on and they would have me against the wall, talking about “spread ‘em”. So, I halted and went another way. As I was going back towards the way I came, I asked the group of people who were at the table, how to get out. They pointed in one direction, so I headed that way. Well, I get to one door and it didn’t say STOP, there were no cameras, lights or anything that said NYPD, so I went out that door. Now it is raining outside, but I have my umbrella, because I’m no longer in Kansas and I started walking towards the gate. I get closer to the gate and see that it is closed. Okay, maybe this is to deter people from coming through. No, it was locked with the biggest padlock I’ve ever seen. I’m like, great. Let me go out the other way. The distance between these gates is the distance between the side of the entire school building, which turns out to be the length of three basketball courts, side by side. I get to the other gate and it looks closed as well and the closer I get – I see that familiar HUGE pad lock. Now I’m like Good Lord! The door that I just left out of is a typical steel school door – made for crafty kids – so they could never get in or out, unless you wanted them to.
However, I did not panic yet. I’m no stranger to hopping gates or going under them. (long story) Anyway, I start to look for cuts in the gate or places where the gates have been disconnected from the base. Uh, no (in my Kevin Hart voice). All these places have been re-sealed and the places where they were holes in the gates have been patched up with thicker gate material. Then, panic hit my heart. I see a couple walk past on the other side, so I started to walk towards them and say something, but then I thought better of it. They may see that I’m trapped like a caged wildebeest and start to poke fun. I go back to the steel door and bang on it. It was like kicking bricks – barely made a sound. My hand just hurt. I’m like, OMG. Why does this stuff happen to me? Why? What did I do, Lord? Why me? Then I start pacing back and forth, like my telepathic WILL would open the gates. I think, maybe if I put my umbrella through, my purse and my other bag, I can just hop over the gate. Then I think better of that idea – I’m in East Harlem, if I stick anything through those gates with no way to get over there – they will be gone. Hello!

I go back to the door and start to bang and kick. Now with a vengeance. Almost in hysterics – because I was trapped. All of a sudden the door opens! I said, “Thank you Jesus!” The maintenance guy who I notified that I was in the building, when we were on the fifth floor opens the door and asked me where was I going? I told him, apparently nowhere. Then I said, I’m trying to get home! He is laughing at me by this point, because I’m sure he sees the hysteria in my eyes. I said, “I’m glad you think it’s funny.” He could barely talk, because he was laughing so much. I just stalked off and went out a door I knew I wouldn’t be trapped like a caged animal. SMH

Last Sunday, I went to the movies to see Superman. It was okay, the movie seemed rushed, but okay. I drove to the theatre and when I came back – it was around midnight and there was nowhere to park. I finally found a place to park. BTW: The parking here is crazy. Nowhere to park in a 5 block radius. So, the next Sunday, a few days ago, I saw a closer parking spot, so I went to go get my car and move near where I am staying. I quickly walk the five blocks, excited that there were a few spaces available and they were closer to my place. The closer I get to where I think my car is located, I realize I do not see my car. I was not alarmed at first, because all the blocks look alike. I see a man sitting outside his house and I ask him if there was a car here and are you allowed to park here? He starts to explain in a very thick Italian accent – “no car here”. I’m like, sir, I think I parked my car here last Sunday.” He said, “I hope not, it says no standing”. I said, “Right, but it doesn’t say no parking”. He says, “Standing is parking”. I’m like, what? So, I go to the next block, convinced that my car is there. Uh, no. (Kevin Hart voice and then the Kevin Hart cry). Because this is not HAPPENING TO ME! Everybody was trying to be helpful, but at that point – I was done. I was just done. I didn’t want to hear nothing, because, REALLY? My car is gone. It’s either stolen or has been towed. I return to my place and I didn’t call the cops for a while, because I was just done. People are urging me to find out – I’m like – I will – One day. I’ll find out. I was so done, it didn’t make any sense. I’m catching the train, holding my neck, grasping my bag, blotting my face because it’s hot as HADES 'out this mickity flick', wearing shorts under my skirts, sneakers to keep my stride, get locked in a cage, have to share an apt, can’t cook, no full-time job, no prospects of a job, have to keep the air conditioning and fan running in my room and only when I’m there, and now my car is gone. Done!

Well, after I gathered myself, I called the cops, whose system was down and they couldn’t tell me if my car had been towed. Oh, wonderful! The Bronx pound was closed on Sunday and I must wait until Monday. On Monday morning, I did not feel too well, so I called out. I then called the pound, who after 10 minutes of searching their system said my car was there. It had been towed on Tuesday and I just realized this on Sunday. Whoopee!
I found out how to get to the pound on the train that also included a 15 minute walk in the HOT SUN. At one point, I pulled out my trusty umbrella and did not CARE who looked at me like I was not from around there. I finally reached the pound and after $245 in tow fees and $345 in tickets (apparently it cost $115 per ticket to park in a “no standing zone”), which I did not have to pay at that moment (thank God). To date, I have 3 tickets – one for being 9 ft. near a hydrant ($115) that I received a few weeks ago and two from last week. I may need to start a TJ Move to New York Charity! I drove off with my car, but not before the old police officer that ‘needed’ to harass me about why “God gave him eyes to see the pretty woman and he assured me with a ring on his ring finger that he would use his eyes to just that.” As he eyed me up and down. I asked him “how his wife felt about that?” and then I was like, “can you please take me to my car”. I have no time for this foolishness. I’m already hotter than fish grease!

New York, New York – oh how I love thee. :-)

To top off this experience, I did receive an email from one school, stating that they received my resume from the Head Hunters and wanted to know if I would be interested in a position that was not on my radar. I looked at the job description and thought it might not be a bad idea, considering what I want to do and said, “Sure”. I have to apply, but we’ll see what happens. That’s the first lead in a few weeks and honestly, I needed some good news.

TODAY, around 4pm, my vision started to blur and I knew a migraine was coming. I immediately took my migraine medicine, but it kept coming. I couldn’t concentrate, so I left work at 4:45pm. I am feeling nauseous the whole walk to the train station and of course, the sun is out, people are shouting and the trains seemed extra loud. I’m praying I can get a seat, because I felt like I was about to go down at any point. I make it to my second train and sat down on the platform bench, which I never do. However, it was either I sat down or would have laid down, like the guy that I saw outside last week. That is how I felt. As soon as I sit down, I think to myself - I need some water. Don’t you know, one of the guys that sells stuff on the train starts yelling, “Ice-cold water, only two left”. I weakly raised my hand as he went to pass me and found the $2 that I keep in my purse. I gave him a dollar for the water and then asked him if he had any candy? HAHA. That’s what I get. I tell you, that man saved my life today. I think he knew it, because he gave me another pack of fruit snacks and started talking about how he likes to help his people, because he knows it’s hot. I said, “Well, I thank you. Because I was about to pass out in this station”. He said that the job is hard work and he’s been out here since 9 am. I asked him “Is it good money” and he said, about $100 a day. I said, well that’s not bad then. As he was talking, I CRUSHED that candy. I mean by the handful. It was crazy. I had lunch, so I’m not sure what was wrong, but my hands were shaking like I hadn’t eaten a thing. Without that water and candy, I would not have made it home. I was walking as slow as a turtle, but I finally made it back to my place and crashed!


I felt much better when I woke up, but I thought to myself – even though these New York ways seem foreign to me – I need to stop acting like a visitor, because I just might need them. :-)

Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Not in Kansas Anymore

Wow, this has been a week. It has been exactly one week since I last wrote a blog and when I say, it’s been up and down - it really has.
Last Tuesday, I was supposed to meet with a friend of a friend. I was late meeting her, because I got lost on the train - SMH and she actually left, because I was a half-hour late and could not contact her. She was nice enough to come  back to meet me and I was glad that she did – it was a great time and she provided me with her story of how she came to New York on a wing and a prayer. I really needed to hear this, because I’m only hanging by a prayer. The wing broke off last week. :-)
In any event, I drove home to Philadelphia to celebrate my little sister's birthday. She turned 20 years old and we celebrated at the Cheesecake Factory (CF). This was a good outing, besides the waitress. Granted it was late, but lady – with a group of 12 -  I know you get automatic gratuity, but please act like you want to be here. She started us off by bringing one basket of bread to split between four tables. Remember, I said there were 12 of us. Right! Then she brings out glasses of water for my brothers and the water was warm. My brothers were flabbergasted. They just could not understand how someone could serve warm water, even with ice. I was shocked by this as well, but figured CF does not fill up the glass with ice like Dunkin Donuts or fast food restaurants, and this was not a takeout order so it would be cold by the time we arrived home. SMH. I was trying to keep it together, because I did not want to ruin my sister’s birthday with foolishness.  She was so excited when I told her we were taking her out, and there would have been no alternative at 10pm. We can either wait for the ice to melt or ask for some more water. (To be safe, I think I'd wait for the ice to melt).  Anyways, the appetizers were great, our food was great, and hanging out with the family was great.

My niece (1.5 years old) decided she wanted to get her mother's attention, shifted her weight in her high chair, which shifted her pamper to the side and then released her bladder - which trickled down to the floor. It was so much, we thought she might have spilled water. Uh, no. It was my girl. Her parents passed her around like a football pass off to take her to the restroom. It was quite comical to see, even with pee droplets on my shoes. I informed the waitress, who seemed to not understand the first two times I told her. So, I had to raise my voice and say, "That's pee" and point on the floor. Can someone clean it up. After 30 minutes, pee still on the floor, probably soaking into our nostrils and definitely my shoes. I had to remind our kind waitress about the wet floor. She then gets her manager to come over and lap it up with thick paper towels. I thought that was a bit unsanitary, so I'm sure I was making faces. After she finishes, she says - "oh, I should probably get some sort of disinfectant." At that point, I turn my head like a PUG to see if she is for real. She was and returned with some spray and started to spray the floor and wipe that up. Anybody ever heard of a mop and bucket? I turned my head like a human again, bought some cheesecake and asked for the bill.

The next day was July 4th and I spent that time hanging out with my mom and working on my podcast, because my roommates were too loud for me to get this done. Every time I tried to record the podcast, a door would open, the toilet would flush, the little boy starts marching, the door would close, the shower would come on, the little boy continues to march. After all of that, I put my podcast microphone away and decided it might be best to take a walk. Anyway, I was able to do my first interview, which felt really good. You know how you have an idea, but not quite sure how the manifestation of it will turn out. I decided -  I can and will do this! Well, I have business cards and a T-Shirt!!!!!  - I gotta do it now. :-)



Later that day, there was a cookout at my Aunt's house and it's always great hanging with family and friends. There were even some friends of my grandmother there. That was great, because it reminded me how she used to take me on her walks to visit her friends who were restricted to their homes, bedridden or just did not come outside. I would always get some candy from one of her friends and the other one's - I'd just sit and speak when spoken to. That is probably why I get along so well with people older than me. My grandma did not play all that - 'talking out of turn', minding other people's business, saying someone was getting on your nerves or stepping outside of a child's place. Granted, I am older now and actually have my own business, nerves and can talk in and out of turn all I want - but it is still done with respect. That's something I learned at a young age.

Anyway, I drove back to New York on the evening of the 4th and decided to take the no-toll roads back, because I had to pay $5 to get into Philadelphia from New Jersey. I was like, really Philly. You are really going to take my $5. Yes, they took it! It's bad enough it cost $15 to get into New York - and I'm still not sure what they are using that money for. Hmm? So, I'm driving through Manhattan and there are cops on every corner, police cars all over the roads - 10 cars deep - swerving through traffic with their sirens blaring. After the fourth set of police cars pass by me, I remembered it was July 4th. SMH Then I thought, it probably is not wise to be going the same directions of the police. These people actually run towards danger. I, on the other hand,  hide behind the columns to avoid danger. Then I thought, it probably wasn't wise to move to New York, if I wanted to avoid danger. I kept driving until I saw the Bronx expressway. I was relieved then, because nobody wants to mess with the Bronx.  

Friday, I was the only one at work. I could have called out, but what else was I going to do? So, I just went to work and pretended to work. LOL. I actually was able to get some things done, but literally everyone took their vacation on that day. I had no where else to go and I needed to make up some time anyway, so I went. One of the things that I've started to do is read the MTA paper on the train and New York is funny with how they put the bad things in small print, at the very bottom or to the side. Like, bad things that will give New York a bad name - violent things. They do not hide the politician's indiscretions or the fact that one of the mayoral candidates was affiliated with a high-end prostitution ring and sent "unbecoming" pictures of himself to someone. That is not in small print or at the bottom. What is small and at the bottom is "woman was stabbed in the throat coming home from work at 4:25 in the morning",  "homeless woman stabbed a woman and punched another woman while on the 6 train on Monday", or an MTA woman kills herself while on her shift by blowing her brains out". The print is so small, that I almost forget to read it, but then I read it and I'm scared. I catch the 6 train to work and this happened in the morning. I have started to cover my throat on the train, because I don't want to be stabbed and especially in the throat. I have things to say. Craziness.

As I leave to go to my place on Friday, I see this.


He partied too hard - for July 4th and 5th.

My weekend was a bit rough. I think it hit me that I don't have a job, any leads, my own apartment or anything. I stayed in on Saturday and just lounged around. There were things I could have done, but I just didn't feel motivated to do anything. Just wasn't in a good space. The friend of a friend invited me to church with her and I said I would go. I almost cancelled, because I was not in a good space and was still up at 4 in the morning, but I thought it was probably best for me to go. I hadn't been in the past couple of weeks - due to moving. Well, I caught the train to the church and I saw a man sitting on the train dressed in his Sunday best. You know me, I didn't look at him in the face just yet, but after I sat down, I thought the Christian thing to do would be to acknowledge him. He was dressed in the Deacon outfit. Brown creased pants, brown shined shoes, a burnt orange vest with a brown jacket. He looked very deaconish! I like the deacons, so I went to look up and speak, but he had already been smiling brightly, he muttered something and then stopped smiling. He wasn't even looking at me, so I assumed he had a Bluetooth earpiece. I searched for the Bluetooth, headphones, or something. There was nothing. I then turned my gaze towards something else, because I didn't want to be stabbed in the throat.
I got off the train and did not know how to get to the church from the station, but I saw a CVS and I still had toothpaste breath. So, I went to CVS, bought some water, Twizzlers for church, and changed from my sneakers to my church shoes (3 inch heels). You just can't walk everywhere with church shoes. They are for church only, because you can only stand to have them on for a few hours. That's it! Anyway, I'm walking with my dress and heels - like I was before and then I felt my right ankle buckle and go towards the right. I was so busy looking for the church, I wasn't looking at the ground and missed the gap in the sidewalk. I did not fall and thought I quickly recovered - so I kept strutting down the street. Well, this guy who is walking towards me says loudly, "You handled that one nicely, you still got it together. I saw that, but you pulled it together. Good job!" I just started laughing. Like, thank you sir for pointing out so loudly that I just tripped.  

I reach a corner and I still don't know where I was going. I took a swig of my water and this couple walks up to me with a map and asked if I knew where...I cut them right off. I said, "I'm lost myself. I know nothing about this area (Harlem)." They look at me like "really". So, I look back at them, like "really". Then this guy walks down the street, who happens to be black, and apparently the tourist couple and I had the same thought at the same time. ASK HIM WHERE WE NEED TO GO. LOL. They got there first and he started to tell them where to go, but couldn't think of the street name. So he looks at me, and says "you know, what's that street". I look at him and say, "I don't know, I'm about to ask you where the church is located." LOL. So then he looks at me like, "really". I look back at him, like, "really". He then tells me where to go. :-) I laughed as I left, because then I realized why they were asking me if I knew where things were - I'm black. Just like we both went to ask that guy. SMH

Well, I found the church and cried from the first song until the benediction. The title of the sermon was "A Remedy for Resignation". If that wasn't applicable, I'm not sure what was. I really enjoyed the music and the message. It was very refreshing to hear and I need that in my life. Not just when I'm down, but even when I'm up. I need that connection, that Word of encouragement to reassure me that I'll be okay and that I'm not alone in whatever struggle I'm in. The lady next to me was crying and the man in front of me was crying too. They started passing out tissues, so I reached over my row and grabbed some for me and the lady next to me. It wasn't funny, but when the preacher said "turn to your neighbor and tell them God hasn't forgotten about you." I turned to my neighbor who was dabbing tears from her eyes and I had tears rolling down my cheeks and we started laughing. I just touched her shoulder and said, "It's not over, God hasn't forgotten about You!" It was a powerful message that God knew I needed to hear. Along with my comic relief with my neighbor, I saw this lady walking down the isle with a Minnie Mouse headband. (Ears sticking up and all). I was glad she was in church, because the church is the most accepting of all types of people - crazy and all. We welcome one, we welcome all! That's the motto. That's the way it should be - come as you are! So, we do.... tears, dripping mascara, Minnie Mouse headbands and crazy deacons. You name it...you can always find it at church.

 I left the church and started walking back towards the CVS and this gorgeous man walks up to me to shake my hands. My defenses are already up, but I stuck out my hand, because - hello - he was tall, light and handsome. He goes on to say his name, which I forgot - DRATS. Then he says, he is running for City Council. I immediately say, "I'm not from around here." So, he puts up his hands like he is under arrest and said in a sarcastic voice, "Well, it's still a good morning". I smiled and said, "Yes, I'm sorry, Good morning". My legs kept walking (stupid defenses), but I turned around and said, "Good luck". UGH. I kicked myself all the way home. I should have asked about his campaign, the process, volunteered for goodness sake. I don't have a job. That could be my full time job and I can sell candy on the trains to pay the rent. SMH.

I was on the train to return home after church, but was in a daze - pondering over the message and kicking myself for not stopping to find out more about that gorgeous man. Anyway, I wasn't really looking at anything on the train, and I see this man looking at me. I just figured I caught him looking at me, while he was gazing around like people have caught me looking at them. So, I just kept looking around and then my eyes landed on him again. I had my glasses on, but I wasn't sure if I was seeing what he was doing correctly. (I was sitting on the other side where the pink arrow is pointing) So I adjusted my glasses and this man was mouthing the words, "How you doing?"- through the bars on the seat. (See the red circle in the picture - that is where he was sitting - with his mouth through the second and third bar) I didn't change my face or even acknowledge that foolishness. I just kept on gazing around the train. You are a grown man, mouthing (with no audible sound) "How you doing?" This is not the show Martin, you are not Sha-Nay-Nay and hopefully not a mime with no make-up. WHAT in the world? You should have seen me getting off that train. SMH

Sunday evening I went to the movies. I decided to get out of my cell and do something. The past week had been extremely HOT - ranging around 95 degrees outside, but it felt like 105 degrees. So, I decided to keep the AC running in my cell, so, when I come in from the scorching heat, I could be instantly cooled. That was my idea. Well, I came back from the movies and opened the door to the apartment where my cell is located and then the other door opens and the wife appears. She has her shoulders hunched and her head bowed a little and she says she wants to talk. I am like, "oh dear." She starts off the conversation by saying, "My husband told me that your AC was running when you weren't here...". I mentally shook my head and thought - "punk". In short, she explained that by 'me' keeping the AC running, it runs up the electric bill and although she knows her husband said everything was included - if their bill is over $100, they will probably need some help with that. I tried to smile as I knew this conversation was uncomfortable for her, but I was also smiling to keep from crying myself. I told her that I understood and would not mind contributing. She then said, "Like now, you are just getting back and your light is on and your AC is running". If looks could kill, she would have melted on the spot. I was thinking, "Lord, you are really humbling me." So, I told her that in the future I would cut the AC off and that yes, I had been sleeping with the light on (because she noticed this and wanted to point it out as well). What I didn't tell her was that I never sleep with the light on, but I do here, because I'm not sure what is going to jump out and bite me. I smiled, she put her head and shoulders up some and I retreated to my cell.  I wasn't mad at her, because - hello- I own a home and I know how those bills can be. I was mad because I am in the situation in the first place. I'm a grown woman who owns a home and ... and ... and ... but none of that means a thing - right here and right now. I'm trying not to be mad at the process, but this is some major humble pie. Grown or not, I'm under someone else's roof and as I tell my kids all the time - you don't dictate rules in someone else's home. You don't like it - Get your own! God knows, more than I can ever say - I've been put out of someone's home before, which is why I've been hell bent on getting and keeping my own. My own everything, not having to depend on anyone for anything. But, here and now - it's not my way and it is tearing me up.

I must have carried that on to Monday - because that was a tough day. All day, just tough. I had to get a few pep talks from my mother, my brother, myself and then my mom again. I even had to get a few pep emails. I think it hit me as I paid my rent for another month, I may be paying to rent this cell for August as well. SMH.  This is my process and what i signed up for - so I got to what I got to do.

Anyway, I made it through the work day after many pep talks and decided at 7pm that I wanted to eat some food and not the stupid salad in the refrigerator. So, I go to Grubhub.com and found a seafood place 1 mile from my place. I ordered and paid for the food online and checked the box, stating that I would pick it up. I heard the thunder, but there was no rain, so I just grabbed my black, cross over, cloth purse, threw on some jeans, my new walking sneakers and a heather gray t-shirt. I get a quarter of the way there and big rain drops started to come down. I run under the over ground train station and attempt to stay under there for protection from the rain - which partially worked. Then the heavens opened up and it starts to POUR and I mean POUR. I am halfway jogging at this point towards the store, which is much further than I thought and I spot a Walgreens. I walk around the store, to find two different types of umbrellas. One is light and cost $5.99 and the other is bigger and heavier and cost $14.99. However, the $14.99 had "fun in the sun" and I thought it was a beach umbrella. I didn't want to walk around with a beach umbrella, so I purchased the $5.99 umbrella. I was 3 blocks away from the store, so I figured I would be fine.
 Now, before I left the Walgreens, the top of my shirt was wet and my jeans were wet from the knees down. I put up that $5.99 umbrella and by the time I made it to the store where my food had been waiting - I was completely soaked. I had been drier without the umbrella.  At this point, I'm in the middle of a thunder storm in full force, with gale force winds and rain coming down by the buckets. I thought about staying in the store to eat my food to wait out the rain, but I realized it was 8:05 pm and already dark. So, I headed back to my place, but stopped past the Walgreens, picked up the "fun in the sun" umbrella and a poncho. The lady let me trade in the $5.99 umbrella that did absolutely nothing. Now, I'm at the entrance at the front of the store, I unwrap my "fun in the sun" umbrella and the poncho. These two older ladies were laughing at me, and asking, "You ready to go now, huh". I said, "Not just yet". They watched me struggle to figure out where the head of the poncho was located, watched me struggle to get the poncho over my big head that happened to have a bun on top and then figure out how to close it up on the sides of the poncho. They were getting a real kick out of this event. I secured my food, opened my umbrella and secured the hood on my poncho and yelled back to them, "I'm ready now" and was off to get back to my place. Don't you know it was barely drizzling when I stepped outside that Walgreens. Now, I really look like the crazy one. I walk back, hot, sweating from the plastic poncho, carrying this huge "fun in the sun" umbrella and making squeaky noises, because my sneakers were soaked.

Status of my situation:
·         Hair: Wet
·         Heather Gray t-shirt: SOAKED
·         Jeans: SOAKED
·         Sneakers: SOAKED
·         Cloth Purse: SOAKED
·         Umbrella "fun in the sun": DAMP
·         PONCHO: DRY
·         FOOD: Good (fish sandwich)

I was always the type to never carry an umbrella, because why do I need the extra baggage? I wanted to move to New York, so I could walk, catch the trains and buses, because it would be fun. Whoa!!! Fun.

Hello, Dorthy - you're not in Kansas anymore. Your primary mode of transportation is no longer your personal vehicle! You need to check the weather, the news and the train systems for possible stabbings. You also may want to get those rain boats, I mean boots. 
  
Here's to changing my thinking and Not clicking my heels.